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Kristen's avatar

I may be the "Queen of Lists". They bring me a feeling of control and guidance. However, they also bring me a tremendous amount of anxiety and guilt because there is no way to do it all and most importantly the tasks often take me away from what I would prefer to do. I am struggling with a role I have been doing for years, but it is no longer bringing me enjoyment and taking up precious time I could spend with my loved ones or myself. My sentence is, "take a look at what brings you joy, contentment and peace and make the necessary changes to get there".

Thank you for getting me to think. I always enjoy what you share.

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Dana Frost's avatar

I relate to so much of this and love your sentence. Good luck making your necessary changes for more joy, contentment, and peace!

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Bill Fye's avatar

My one true sentence is hang with Rico. Rico is my rescue pup. Similar to you, I've got a never ending to do list of work stuff and home stuff and all the extras a grieving brain dumps on me too. You never know what you get when you bring home a rescue. Days, months, or years, who knows, most dont come with a history. It's about the only way to quiet those "productivity" thoughts, is to remember that Rico won't care if the dishes have sat in the sink a few days. He just wants to spend time with me now. I write this with laundry, dishes, and vacuuming to do, but he is currently snuggled in against me and asleep. The rest can wait a little bit longer.

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Dana Frost's avatar

Thank you Bill for this reminder to hang with my own rescue pup. I was struggling to get out of the house today and your comment gave me the (gentle) push I needed to take Maggie on a much needed walk for us both. "The rest can wait" - so true.

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Nate Hamme's avatar

I try to do small tasks while thinking through big issues. It helps me with the time consuming things while making me feel "productive".

The checklist will wait for you, take a right and drive the road by the water

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Dana Frost's avatar

Always take the right 🌊

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Kristie's avatar

I don't know, but I'm to think about it all day. It's a great post. I'm going to read more of your posts. I will be back later today when I come up with my one true sentence.

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Dana Frost's avatar

I look forward to hearing it when you come up with one 💛

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Angela Curtis's avatar

When my kids were small and the day was done I often felt that I got nothing done all day. Nothing crossed off the to do list. When I felt particularly bad about not accomplishing anything I would make a list at the end of the day of all the things did that day. It is amazing what gets done without looking at the list. I think your pick 3 of the list is a great plan. You move towards a goal but are not prisoner to your list. The list will always be there but the people to enjoy life with will not.

"But time makes you bolder

Even children get older

And I'm getting older too"

Landslide - Stevie Nicks

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Dana Frost's avatar

I think when we're IN IT, we don't have the space to pay attention to all we're doing. And sometimes eating, sleeping, showering is enough.

And cheers to not being prisoners of our lists.

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Sally Deming's avatar

Get out of my head and do something, anything to keep me sane!

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Dana Frost's avatar

A good tactic!

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Marina's avatar

Trying to make peace with my sad heart and chaotic brain ...

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Dana Frost's avatar

I know that sentence - and feeling - well. Hoping for more peace and less chaos for all of us 💛

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